It’s time to seriously rethink and recondition what we think about male sexuality as a society. We’ve been told that an erection is a measure of virility, of success, of worth. But what if it’s more than that? What if it’s a reflection of the emotional landscape?
A man’s erection is actually an intricate and vulnerable expression of his inner world. And at its core lies the heart.

The truth is, desire is alive in the space between two souls- between the self and the other. That space requires tending. It’s not always easy to admit that we’ve stopped being curious about our partner. It’s not always easy to admit that we’ve stopped being curious about ourselves. Desire begins within, after all. It starts in the way we touch our own skin, the way we listen to our own hunger, the way we awaken to the world around us and engage with it. A worthy question to ask is- have we become too comfortable with ourselves?

There’s something exquisitely tender about meeting yourself in intimacy. Not the rushed or transactional kind, not the masturbation-orgasm before sleeping, but the slow, sacred, attentive presence that asks nothing of you but to simply be.
In the world I inhabit as a couples sex therapist and intimacy coach- a dakini who guides others through the labyrinth of connection- I’ve learned that the most profound connection isn’t always found in the arms of another.
It starts within, in the quiet, uncharted realms of self.

Tantra is often misunderstood as something limited to the bedroom, tied solely to physical intimacy. In reality, it’s a rich philosophy of connection, mindfulness and presence that can infuse every aspect of our lives.

For couples interested in bringing more Tantra into their relationship, know that it’s so much more than enhancing physical closeness. It’s about cultivating a sacred, intentional space where every shared moment can become an opportunity to deepen your bond.

At its core, sexual energy mapping starts with self-awareness. We all carry unique energetic patterns- places in our bodies where we naturally feel alive and places that might feel dormant, heavy or numb. For some of us, the heart center may radiate with warmth, while for others, the energy might be concentrated in the hips or belly.

A Tantric morning ritual lets you start the day with intention, connection and a touch of playfulness- because let’s be honest, what’s better than a little spark to carry you through the day?

There’s a special kind of frustration that comes with feeling disconnected during an intimate moment. You want to be there, fully present with your partner, but your mind keeps wandering- to work stress, to a to-do list or to that random embarrassing memory from five years ago.
It’s not just you. It happens to all of us at some point, and it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or your relationship. It’s simply a sign that your mind and body aren’t fully in sync in that moment.

There’s a common myth that lingers in our collective understanding of sexuality- a belief so persistent that it often leaves people questioning their own bodies, their relationships and their desires. It’s the myth that if your body responds- if there is wetness, hardness or a flush of heat-then it must mean you want what’s happening. But the truth, as delicate and complex as the workings of our hearts, is far more nuanced than this.

To be a Dakini is to walk a path of profound intimacy, not just with others but with life itself. It is to embrace the fullness of the human experience, from the mundane to the mystical. It is to see the divine in the eyes of another and to know that same divinity exists within you. It is to live and love from the deepest place of being.

There is a tender, often overlooked dimension of our erotic selves- a soft, unguarded space where innocence meets desire. We call this ‘erotic innocence’ and it has become one of the most sacred threads I weave into my work.
Often misunderstood, erotic innocence is not about returning to a place of naivety or forgetting the complexity of life, but about stepping into a state of presence, curiosity and wonder again. The childlike exploration of the world: as if to be seeing and feeling for the first time. It’s about the raw, unpolished beauty of meeting yourself and your partner without pretense, expectation, performance or even conditionings.

Breath is the language of the body. It bridges the gap between the physical and emotional realms, whispering the unspoken and unveiling hidden truths.
In tantric intimacy breath is a tool for connection, transformation and awakening. It is through conscious breathing that partners can journey beyond the superficial and access deeper wells of love, vulnerability and finally, union.

In a world so full of distractions, it’s easy to overlook the intricate language of touch. So often we rush through our days, brushing past the textures, temperatures and sensations that connect us to the present moment and to each other.
There’s an art to awakening the senses, to breathing life into touch so it becomes more than a fleeting gesture, to slow down, notice and invite curiosity back into your body and the connection with your partner.

A Yoni Massage is an exploration of connection, healing and awakening.
It’s an intimate journey that transcends the physical; reaching into the realms of emotion, energy and soul.
The word yoni, a Sanskrit term for the vulva carries reverence, translating to ‘sacred space’ or ‘source’.
And truly, that is what it is.